Opening my laptop, I see a sticky note. "DO YOUR BLOG! =P MUAH!"
Noel went off to the church retreat for the weekend and I'm finding surprise notes all around the house. So cute!
But....
I don't wanna! Actually, I already have a blog post written... just
don't want to edit it and post it. You'd think the editing and posting
is easy... well, it is. I'm just lazy. I'd rather write a handful of
journal entries than to go through it again and again to polish it. =S
Okay.
Okay. Think of this long 3-week break from blogging as my birthday
gift to myself. *smirk* I'll get my butt back in gear now. Yup
yup....
(Sitting at my computer. Staring at the word-filled screen. Hand on mouse. Motionless.)
6 hours later...
July 6, 2014
"What will you be like in 20 years? What do you expect to have? Write each individual want, dream, hope, expectation down on its own piece of paper."
High school youth sprawl on the floor in a large circle. Thoughtful faces. Intense scribbling. First one paper then another flies to the center. Quickly, a small pile of bent and creased index cards form.
"Here, lets have two of you organize all the papers into groups and label the theme of each pile."
House. Job. Car. Vacation locations. Husband/Wife. Children. Hobbies. Successes. Personal characteristics. Money. Stability. Comfort items. Material goods. This is what these youth want to achieve, acquire and experience in their future.
Organizing the piles of what these youth want in their lives 20 years down the road, I see a reflection of my own hopes and dreams.
My eyes scan across the semi-circle of youth sprawling on the floor. I see apathy and curiosity, alert attentiveness and casual disinterest. Either way, no one is talking. All ears are open to listen and all eyes pointing towards Noel and I. Now, it is our turn to share. Using these cards neatly organized in front of us, Noel and I will take turns sharing our own dreams from our high school days and the outcomes we experience now, many years later.
Grabbing a pile, I look at the topic: "Husband/Wife." Ahhhhhh, this brings back memories. I remember laying in bed, eyes unfocused, staring at the ceiling. What kind of husband do I want? What kind of marriage do I want to have? How serious am I going to be about my criteria and why?
I'd like a man who is handsome, but we all get old anyways so this will go on my "I would like but not have to have list." My whole family is tall, so someone who is at least 5'8" to 5'10" would be great. A man who speaks Mandarin so he can participate with my family during dinner conversations that switch between Chinese and English is ideal.
On
the other hand, there are things I absolutely will not compromise on. I
need someone who loves me and sees/knows the real me. I have to have a
man who loves God first and has the heart to follow Jesus Christ above
even his heart for me because this is the type of life I want to live
for myself. I seek a man who desires to grow his relationship with God
as his priority so that we can be of one heart and one mind... to truly
be able to say that Jesus Christ is the head of our household in all
respects, to be equals and acknowledged stewards of all God's given
gifts. I want a husband with whom I can share my entire life with. A
man to share in my future and my goals. A man who will walk the same
path I do, towards Jesus Christ. This is my dream husband, my ideal.
Before I met Noel, there was only one man who ever made it past the barriers around my heart. He was a childhood friend. I can say that I really really liked him. Back in college, we would talk on the phone every night. Sometimes, he would come up to Davis to meet me. One time, I even went down to LA to meet him. One night while we were talking on the phone, I got asked the question "will you be my girlfriend?" Happy and ecstatic, I wanted to answer "yes!" But wait... my purpose of a boyfriend is for assessing if the man is appropriate to be my husband. This man does not know God, much less place Jesus as first in his life. He cannot, as he is now, be my life partner. No matter how hard we try to work this relationship, he will never understand my heart for Christ unless he also experiences the same. As things stand, he will never be able to be my spiritual equal, to walk in the same direction, to understand the reasoning behind my decisions, to truly know the largest aspect of my life. I don't want to be lonely in my walk with my Lord God from the person who is supposed to walk closest by my side on this earth.
I remember having to say "no, I cannot be your girlfriend." Trying to explain myself, telling this man that even if I cared for him... that a deeper relationship would not work out. I remember that night, sleeping on the floor at a friend's house. I lay huddled in my sleeping bag with tears constantly seeping out of my eyes. Fist in my mouth, I did my best to stifle my cries. My chest hurts. I'm suffocating inside. I can't believe I just let go of this someone I really really wanted to be with... but, in the long run, I would hurt more to stick with someone, who I knew from the very start, didn't walk towards the same future I seek.
Lord, to me, following you is worth this pain. My heart twists inside, but I want to choose you over myself. I need you, Father God, more than anything else this world offers. Even though I struggle to let go of what I think I want, what I think I need... Lord, I know that you have even better.
Before I met Noel, there was only one man who ever made it past the barriers around my heart. He was a childhood friend. I can say that I really really liked him. Back in college, we would talk on the phone every night. Sometimes, he would come up to Davis to meet me. One time, I even went down to LA to meet him. One night while we were talking on the phone, I got asked the question "will you be my girlfriend?" Happy and ecstatic, I wanted to answer "yes!" But wait... my purpose of a boyfriend is for assessing if the man is appropriate to be my husband. This man does not know God, much less place Jesus as first in his life. He cannot, as he is now, be my life partner. No matter how hard we try to work this relationship, he will never understand my heart for Christ unless he also experiences the same. As things stand, he will never be able to be my spiritual equal, to walk in the same direction, to understand the reasoning behind my decisions, to truly know the largest aspect of my life. I don't want to be lonely in my walk with my Lord God from the person who is supposed to walk closest by my side on this earth.
I remember having to say "no, I cannot be your girlfriend." Trying to explain myself, telling this man that even if I cared for him... that a deeper relationship would not work out. I remember that night, sleeping on the floor at a friend's house. I lay huddled in my sleeping bag with tears constantly seeping out of my eyes. Fist in my mouth, I did my best to stifle my cries. My chest hurts. I'm suffocating inside. I can't believe I just let go of this someone I really really wanted to be with... but, in the long run, I would hurt more to stick with someone, who I knew from the very start, didn't walk towards the same future I seek.
Lord, to me, following you is worth this pain. My heart twists inside, but I want to choose you over myself. I need you, Father God, more than anything else this world offers. Even though I struggle to let go of what I think I want, what I think I need... Lord, I know that you have even better.
You, Father
God, Jesus Christ, are my goal, my role model, my purpose in this life.
You hold my true heart. You know me above and beyond what I even know
of myself. I will not accept second best. Lord God, you take first in
my heart so give me a partner who will also place you first. Sooth this
pain I feel in my chest. Someday, if it is your will, allow me to walk
beside a man who seeks you first, and in doing so, may I have a man who
can run besides me, chasing you as our sole goal in life.
Now, years later, I can proudly say that the wait is worth it. Having Noel walk besides me, supporting me, loving me in ways I never imagined possible... I can state that the husband I am blessed with, together, we walk towards Jesus Christ. Eyes both fixed on God. Supporting each other when we stumble. Celebrating together in the joys of this life. At peace in seeing God's blessings and provisions... I have a partner, who is fully my equal, who shores up my weaknesses and I his, one who allows me to grow my strengths, one who I can lean on to let God lead in our marriage. I am blessed with Noel, who is beyond any dream a high school or college girl could have... a husband who's goal is to live as Christ calls. The wait is worth it. Every year, every day, I fall more and more in love with this man God placed in my life: walking the same path, pulling at each other when one strays... always, the same goal under the leadership of Jesus Christ our Lord.
Father God, you do know my heart. You know what I can handle and provide accordingly. Lord, as I struggle to choose you first in all aspects of my life, I get to experience your blessings in ways I've never imagined possible. By giving up my first romance for you, Lord, I gained Noel. For giving up racing cars, I gained the honor of becoming a youth counselor and the ability to impact young lives. By giving my health and my future into your care, I am blessed with peace of heart and a purpose in my daily life.
Lord Jesus, in giving up my own definition of my hopes, dreams and their acquisition by my hands... In you, I have gained more joy, more love, more hope, more peace, and more fulfillment. In breaking me of my youthful desires for my future, you in turn continue to grow my dreams even larger by changing their definitions, expanding potentials, and opening new doors.
Lord, you love me enough that you don't want me to remain as a caterpillar but to evolve into a butterfly. The growth process is painful, sometimes disheartening... But the end result is that by your power, I can fly into a realm a caterpillar can never reach.
Now, years later, I can proudly say that the wait is worth it. Having Noel walk besides me, supporting me, loving me in ways I never imagined possible... I can state that the husband I am blessed with, together, we walk towards Jesus Christ. Eyes both fixed on God. Supporting each other when we stumble. Celebrating together in the joys of this life. At peace in seeing God's blessings and provisions... I have a partner, who is fully my equal, who shores up my weaknesses and I his, one who allows me to grow my strengths, one who I can lean on to let God lead in our marriage. I am blessed with Noel, who is beyond any dream a high school or college girl could have... a husband who's goal is to live as Christ calls. The wait is worth it. Every year, every day, I fall more and more in love with this man God placed in my life: walking the same path, pulling at each other when one strays... always, the same goal under the leadership of Jesus Christ our Lord.
Father God, you do know my heart. You know what I can handle and provide accordingly. Lord, as I struggle to choose you first in all aspects of my life, I get to experience your blessings in ways I've never imagined possible. By giving up my first romance for you, Lord, I gained Noel. For giving up racing cars, I gained the honor of becoming a youth counselor and the ability to impact young lives. By giving my health and my future into your care, I am blessed with peace of heart and a purpose in my daily life.
Lord Jesus, in giving up my own definition of my hopes, dreams and their acquisition by my hands... In you, I have gained more joy, more love, more hope, more peace, and more fulfillment. In breaking me of my youthful desires for my future, you in turn continue to grow my dreams even larger by changing their definitions, expanding potentials, and opening new doors.
Lord, you love me enough that you don't want me to remain as a caterpillar but to evolve into a butterfly. The growth process is painful, sometimes disheartening... But the end result is that by your power, I can fly into a realm a caterpillar can never reach.
Thank
you, Lord, for caring about me enough to release me from the chains of
this earth, for giving me new hope and bigger dreams. Thank you for
giving me a purpose to live; one bigger than myself. Lord, as I start
another year of my life, help hone my dreams. Shape me into a person
who shines so brightly with your spirit that people see you instead.
Thank you for gifting me with wings growing ever bigger, ever
brighter. Thank you for helping me fly ever higher.
Lord, following you is my dream. Responding to and sharing your love is my purpose in this life. You, O Lord, are my greatest treasure. Thank you for allowing me to aim so high. Thank you for guiding me when I stubbornly stray. Thank you for your infinite patience and this astounding peace.
Lord, following you is my dream. Responding to and sharing your love is my purpose in this life. You, O Lord, are my greatest treasure. Thank you for allowing me to aim so high. Thank you for guiding me when I stubbornly stray. Thank you for your infinite patience and this astounding peace.
In Jesus' name, amen.
What are your dreams?
Where does your heart lay?
What do you treasure most?
May you be blessed to stay true to your real path, to grow ever greater your dreams and to know where your real treasures lay.
My family celebrating my birthday with dinner:
